What is it about women (the ones that I have met) and oral sex? There is a big discrepancy between the sexes when it comes to the amount of time spent performing the act. I know in my experience that there is a certain expectation that I spend as much time as needed to ensure that she is satisfied. This will be on average from 15-60 minutes. Never mind that all this while my head is cocked at a 45 degree angle and my tongue gets numb from the swirling and darting that is required non-stop in order for her to reach orgasm. God forbid that I rest for a second…that means starting from the beginning all over. Even worse I had one lover that seemed to enjoy it yet took an extra long time to come. After some discussion I found out she was “holding out” to savor the sensations. I thought my tongue was going to break off…but as long as SHE was happy…right?
When it comes to her “returning the favor” she seems to be in a rush to get it over with. I timed it on more than one occasion, just for interest’s sake and 2 minutes seems to be about average. After that she stops putting any effort into it and starts complaining about a stiff jaw.
I have to admit that I have NO experience in performing oral sex on a man so I don’t know if it is any more difficult than doing it to a woman. Maybe I need the opinion of someone that has had the opportunity to experience both situations. I am not talking about anything extreme here, deep throat or gagging, just “normal” oral sex. I was discussing this topic once with someone and they suggested it might be a “size” thing. Maybe I was too big? I laughed. I say no more.
I am not complaining about my numb tongue or stiff neck, the results are well worse the slight discomfort. I don’t make direct comparisons and do not have any specific expectation, it isn’t a matter of “I’ll give you five for five”. I have never said anything to her regarding my stiff neck or my numb tongue, whereas she makes no “bones” about showing her displeasure with spending more than two minutes. I am just curious as to whether her complaints are justified.
What I feel is that oral sex is “work”. There is specific concentration required to achieve the desired result and the “giver” only gets enjoyment from providing pleasure to the receiver. There is no specific mutual physical stimulation as with intercourse. After time I feel that we go from the “trying to impress” stage to “the as little as I can get away with stage” when it comes to any “job” and “blow” jobs are no exception.
Sometimes I “feel” tired from having to maintain a specific position for too long, but I will never complain. The sexual tension that I get from this particular form of foreplay is second to none…I would assume that from what I have seen that women are possible not aroused in the same way by pleasuring their partner?
Is it because oral sex on a woman can be a session in itself…followed by intercourse; That being a woman can be stimulated orally to orgasm and then can have intercourse immediately afterwards. If a man is stimulated to orgasm orally, typically there will be a gap in time before intercourse is viable. So my point is, is oral sex on a man simply “foreplay” leading to intercourse while oral sex on her is a separate and distinct “session”?