I used to hate it when the teacher would assign her choice of kids in the class to work together as a team on a project. I cannot remember one occasion when I did not get paired up with the class idiot(s). If I were to do the project on my own, I would get … Continue reading Working as a team
Author: Toobster
How husband feels when wife puts husband second?
Insignificant and disrespected Most replied that they felt a deep lack of respect from not only their wives, but from their children. “Respect is important to a man, and he doesn’t feel that when the children consistently come first,” said one man. Unloved Most men, unlike most women, associate love with actions instead of with … Continue reading How husband feels when wife puts husband second?
Enabling adult children
My wife enables her adult children. Enabling happens when a parent removes a naturally occurring negative consequence from a grown child’s life, and the child doesn’t learn from the experience. Said differently, it’s when a parent and child get stuck in a cycle that keeps both dependent on the other in a way that doesn’t … Continue reading Enabling adult children
Unconditional love in parenting
The basic idea behind unconditional love seems quite reasonable. You should love your children just for who they are, regardless of what they do. Children shouldn't have to worry whether their actions will cause you to love them less. They should be able to count on your love no matter what. If you look at … Continue reading Unconditional love in parenting
Self-awareness
One trait that I have that I find seriously lacking in most others is self-awareness. I find so many people just "do" without any thought about their surroundings and the people around them. Self-awareness is the ability to focus on yourself and how your actions, thoughts, or emotions do or don't align with your internal standards. … Continue reading Self-awareness
Still doesn’t feel like family
My adult stepchildren are respectful towards me, but they don't respect me. They make their mom feel like they are respecting her when in reality they are simply manipulating her. I have watched it for 13 years now. She spoils her kids (normal) but also enables their behavior. Her kids don't respect my decisions unless … Continue reading Still doesn’t feel like family
Forsaking all others
Forsaking all others also means you prioritize your own children in such a way that your marriage remains the priority. Marriage is a man and woman coming together and forsaking all others. If a partner in the marriage considers someone else equal to or greater than their spouse, that marriage is heading for the rocks, … Continue reading Forsaking all others
Adult children threatening my marriage
My issue is an adult child living in my house. Her adult child. My wife's adult child.I met him 13 years ago when I was dating his mother.Today he is 29 years old, working and making $50,000 per year. He pays $400 in room and board. The problem? He seems to have made our house, … Continue reading Adult children threatening my marriage
Stressors for an Introvert
Talking to people Being put on the spot Making small talk Job interviews Phone calls Meeting new people Dealing with people without enough "me" time Unannounced visitors Group projects Public speaking Having to give someone negative feedback Leading a meeting Confrontation in general Time pressures. Too many things to do, not enough time
Embracing my Introversion
Individuals have the capacity to learn how to act outside of our natural tendencies. This ability is a survival skill. As an introvert, I can spend time in large groups. I can answer on-the-spot questions when circumstances deem it necessary. But because my brain is wired differently than an extrovert’s, I have a different tolerance … Continue reading Embracing my Introversion
