Tag: adult children

Enabling adult children

My wife enables her adult children. Enabling happens when a parent removes a naturally occurring negative consequence from a grown child’s life, and the child doesn’t learn from the experience. Said differently, it’s when a parent and child get stuck in a cycle that keeps both dependent on the other in a way that doesn’t

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Unconditional love in parenting

The basic idea behind unconditional love seems quite reasonable. You should love your children just for who they are, regardless of what they do. Children shouldn’t have to worry whether their actions will cause you to love them less. They should be able to count on your love no matter what. If you look at

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An open letter to my eldest step-son

An open letter to my eldest step-son. I don’t know if you made a note to yourself, but yesterday was cause for celebration.  Yesterday marked the one year anniversary….only one year left until you pack your bags for the final time…and walk off into oblivion. When a couple in their 40’s get together, like your

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